An incredible thing happened this weekend: I had my first Mother’s Day. It was completely unexpected. I received a card from my best friend before my husband and I left for my in-laws. I couldn’t believe it. I ran up to my husband with tears in my eyes, overcome by the incredible generosity of a loved one in my life. You see, when you are adopting, I have come to find out that people do not always react to you as a “mother” as they would when you are pregnant. Now you may be reading this and thinking, “well, duh, what did you expect?” But there are times, many times, when you are in your adoption journey that people, whether or not they mean to or not, make you feel like the “other,” the odd one out.
After being greeted through text messages from former supervisees and co-workers and gifts from my sister and sister-in-law (they are seriously the BEST), I started to get a little sad, realizing that not everyone thought that this day should or would be special for me. Yes, of course I was wallowing in self pity, and, honestly, until I received my first Mother’s Day card, I didn’t even have a single expectation about my being celebrated on Mother’s Day. I guess I just want to encourage people to remember those in your lives who are going through the arduous, but incredibly wonderful journey of adoption and take time to appreciate them on days like Mother’s or Father’s Day. You have no idea how much it will mean to them.
To those of you who thought of me, I am so humbled by your love for my husband, me, and most importantly our baby. Your prayers are coveted and your support needed in this roller coaster ride we call adoption. I would also want to encourage anyone who cares to pray for all of the birth mothers out there. Even though they are choosing to place their child for adoption, they are still mothers. Without them, adoptive families like my husband and me would not have the opportunity to have a child in this way. And I am forever grateful to them and the rest of their birth family for that.
Since God has called us to adopt, I have felt an urge to blog. Perhaps it is because I have already been so inspired and encouraged by other adoptive mother blogs I have read. For updates on our journey, please continue to read this blog. I hope to write weekly and have this become a “one stop shop” for our loved ones and other advocates for adoption to experience and become a part of our walk down this adoption path. Until then, God bless you all and Happy *belated* Mother’s Day to all of the moms who have inspired me in my life–there are too many of you to name and I am eager to steal your stellar motherly ways once we have our little peanut 🙂
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Congrats, Tone! I didn’t know you were going through the process. I bet Auntie Angie could be a great resource at least regarding the emotional aspects of adopting. Good luck in your journey.
Thanks, Nicole! I talked to Uncle D and Auntie Angie a couple of months ago about the process. They are pretty great 🙂 I so appreciate your kind words and hope to see you soon. We are coming to town in June. I’ll Facebook you about it 🙂