Mission & Perspective
Ever since we began dating we have talked about becoming missionaries. We had no idea what God had in store for us, but it turns out it has to do with building our family. Someday we think that God might call us to be missionaries in a more traditional sense. For now, we will embark on the mission called adoption. The fact is there are many children without forever homes and our heart breaks over this. We know that God has called us to adopt–He has been abundantly clear about this. As said before, there is no explanation as to why God called us to this mission so early in our lives; but we are confident and know that it is His will for us.
Because we are obedient to His will, there are a lot of sacrifices we have to make. For those of you who know me, I am not the most humble person on the face of the planet–quite the opposite. This process has been all kinds of humbling. It has attacked my pride and my confidence over and over again. It has given me a completely new perspective. Especially around how our money is spent. Now for anyone who knows us, Brian and I are pretty frugal. Both of us wear hand me downs from siblings, we save more than we spend, and we give faithfully.
Despite those things, we still need a lot of help. I cannot even begin to explain how humbling that is. Time and time again, letters pour into our home from missionaries and other persons in ministry and we do not hesitate to give or pray for them. Now that it is our turn, I can relate to the pit in their stomaches that I am sure many of them must feel as a result of fundraising for their mission. But we know it is the smart and practical thing to do. Like the missionary and ministry community, adoption fundraising is a common thing. Speaking with experts from agencies and wise counsel from our church body, we decided to start a fundraising campaign. Since a lot of our family and friends are from different states, we knew we could not do a more traditional fundraiser, so we began an electronic one.
This fundraising will continue until we bring our child home. We hope to raise the funds necessary, but also understand that the Lord would not have put us in this position without the ability to provide for our child ourselves. We realize with adoption, though, it is wise to call upon your community to see how they can help. Your prayers and donations will forever have a hand in our child’s life. Many of our friends who have their sweet littles ones now as a result of a successful adoption can attest to the incredible impact community has on adoption. This includes fundraising. Adoption costs tend to rack up over time and the chance to lose money over a potential match falling through is likely. Since God has given us the ability to fundraise, we have decided to do so for our adoption so we do not fall into debt.
When we began this journey, our perspective on building a family was so narrow, so judgmental. Now that we are in it we know that every family makeup is different and that every family makeup is beautiful in its own right. Some people cannot physically produce children, so they adopt. Some people have some biological children and then they decide to adopt because of age or calling. Some people adopt first and then try to have biological children later. No matter what the situation is, we should all remember to embrace the way in which people go about building their families and support them in anyway we can. Give if you can, pray if you do, and send a kind word if it is so laid upon your heart to share it. But no matter what you do, remember that perspective makes a difference. Wouldn’t it be a better world if we all decided to treat others as we would like to be treated? I think gaining perspective helps us do that.
We thank everyone who has come alongside of us through this process. We have seen people donate their time, energy, and money to our family. We are truly humbled. God has blessed us with all of the people in our lives. We hope you know that we appreciate every prayer, kind word, and donation.